How does the above picture make you feel? Do you find yourself focusing on her large thighs and rolls? If the answer is yes then......let's just say that's an issue. I have never had a problem accepting my body. My issue are usually with intimacy but that's a whole other section (we will get there trust!). So it was 4am and my phone rings and rings and stops and then rings again. My friends are persistent when they wanna talk and see no problem that I just may be sleepin. I never complain because trust and believe I will intrude on them as well. Well the topic of the night was from a male friend name Brandon*. I quickly grabbed my pen and paper and with his approval these are the short notes of our convo
Me: what is the problem that you are calling me at 5am?
Him: Man I feel like I'm cheating every time I go out. I just left the club and saw a bad juicy chick. She was dancing and shit man it was sexy as fuck. Why My girl can't be like that?
Me: Boy you crazy every time I see Kim* she is dressed nice you crazy.
Him: Jacque what the fuck her clothes have to do with her being sexy please tell me that. When you see her dressed up it more for the club then me trust me. when we get home I have to damn near beg for it and if we do the damn lights go off man that shit drive me crazy. I try to touch her stomach she moves my hand. It's really a turn off like I need someone to own that shit. I love her I do but something has gotta give
Me: Wow
Him: yeah wow she don't want me to see her stretch marks she complain about her body all the damn time. I never thought about her in that manner but the way she keeps talking bout it has me looking. I mean how much more can I tell her she's perfect if she doesn't feel it herself. The shit driving me crazy. I feel like she's pushing me to be with someone else.
Me: hold up nobody can push you to be with someone else but I understand your situation.
Him: We go out to the Mall somewhere she asking me to look at other chicks and do I like her body, her shape, do I wanna sleep with her. Like what the hell. I never cheated but shit it's almost like she want me to.
This Conversation Lasted Almost A hour and a half and he made a lot of valid points. I mean sometimes we as people fat,black,skinny,tall.short etc. can cause our own failure. Brandon and his girl haven been together for about 4 years. She has admitted to me that she knows he loves her and never cheated but she feels so nasty. Not only was sex with the lights off a must she now had area's that were now off the market. If you don't love YOU how can you ever expect someone else to? I mean I'm not saying I'm a hero and never faced issues but my body has never been one of them. Like I said that's a whole other topic and you gals will not get me to talk about it just yet Gosh! lol But I mean he knows you have rolls He knows that your thighs scrub and you may or may not has blackened inner thighs (lol I'm sorry but this is actually a problem for some ppl). This is not a fat girl issue AT ALL I have a few friends of all sizes that at our girl talk sessions admit that they don't feel sexy. Almost all of them are looking for their spouse to make them feel wanted,desired,sexy etc. but honestly ladies it starts within and I will preach this until the end of time. IT'S TIME TO ACCEPT WHAT YOU HAVE AND LOVE IT ALL. I no longer wanna see albums of just face shots because you don't think your body needs to be seen. LOVE IT ALL.....<IT'S A MOVEMENT>!!!!!!!
LET'S TALK!
Me: what is the problem that you are calling me at 5am?
Him: Man I feel like I'm cheating every time I go out. I just left the club and saw a bad juicy chick. She was dancing and shit man it was sexy as fuck. Why My girl can't be like that?
Me: Boy you crazy every time I see Kim* she is dressed nice you crazy.
Him: Jacque what the fuck her clothes have to do with her being sexy please tell me that. When you see her dressed up it more for the club then me trust me. when we get home I have to damn near beg for it and if we do the damn lights go off man that shit drive me crazy. I try to touch her stomach she moves my hand. It's really a turn off like I need someone to own that shit. I love her I do but something has gotta give
Me: Wow
Him: yeah wow she don't want me to see her stretch marks she complain about her body all the damn time. I never thought about her in that manner but the way she keeps talking bout it has me looking. I mean how much more can I tell her she's perfect if she doesn't feel it herself. The shit driving me crazy. I feel like she's pushing me to be with someone else.
Me: hold up nobody can push you to be with someone else but I understand your situation.
Him: We go out to the Mall somewhere she asking me to look at other chicks and do I like her body, her shape, do I wanna sleep with her. Like what the hell. I never cheated but shit it's almost like she want me to.
This Conversation Lasted Almost A hour and a half and he made a lot of valid points. I mean sometimes we as people fat,black,skinny,tall.short etc. can cause our own failure. Brandon and his girl haven been together for about 4 years. She has admitted to me that she knows he loves her and never cheated but she feels so nasty. Not only was sex with the lights off a must she now had area's that were now off the market. If you don't love YOU how can you ever expect someone else to? I mean I'm not saying I'm a hero and never faced issues but my body has never been one of them. Like I said that's a whole other topic and you gals will not get me to talk about it just yet Gosh! lol But I mean he knows you have rolls He knows that your thighs scrub and you may or may not has blackened inner thighs (lol I'm sorry but this is actually a problem for some ppl). This is not a fat girl issue AT ALL I have a few friends of all sizes that at our girl talk sessions admit that they don't feel sexy. Almost all of them are looking for their spouse to make them feel wanted,desired,sexy etc. but honestly ladies it starts within and I will preach this until the end of time. IT'S TIME TO ACCEPT WHAT YOU HAVE AND LOVE IT ALL. I no longer wanna see albums of just face shots because you don't think your body needs to be seen. LOVE IT ALL.....<IT'S A MOVEMENT>!!!!!!!
LET'S TALK!
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